On International Women's Day last year I listed some of the reasons I'm a feminist.
This post went on to become one of my most popular to date. But sadly within this past year more shitty sexists things have happened (or things I forgot to mention last year) and I'm back with yet more fucking personal anecdotes as to why feminism is still required.
And I'm only touching on stuff that has personally affected me, I'm not even touching upon the bullshit that goes on around the world.
Recruiters still consider a female's motherhood status
This isn't based on a gut feeling or something I read online. I know this is still an issue because a recruitment consultant I have known (in the past, thankfully) admitted to my (female) face that he would still consider a candidates family background, and yes a man has a bigger chance because 'statistically' it means he's less likely to job hop but a mother is more likely to have days off because wee Charlie came down with a cold.
This punches me somewhere where it hurts because my dad took early retirement for health reasons whilst I was young and my mum's salary became the only salary. Thankfully my mum works in a female dominated field (nursing) so she was able to move through the ranks and earn a high enough salary for all three of us, but my life could have been very different if she was in a male dominated industry.
Girls who don't need to lose weight, thinking they do
The only guys I've ever known to go on a diet have been guys that were overweight and needed to shift weight for health reasons. But I have known perfectly healthy girls of average weight who have managed to get it into their heads that calorie counting is a fun past time.
Guys trying to undermine my personal contraceptive choices
If you were to split my past 'partners' down the middle one half wrapped up with no issue - didn't even need to remind them, had their own one to hand etc. The other half however gave me anecdotes of it not feeling as pleasurable or pointed to the pill packet on my bedside table. I'm well aware I take the pill but 1) I don't know where the fuck you've been and 2) I've always doubled up my contraception because it makes me feel safer and since I'm the half of this tango that would be left with the aftermath of the pill failing I have the right to demand you either wrap up or get out (and I have walked out before).
Because my natural body shape elicits pregnancy questions
I collect weight on my stomach - this is my body shape and always has been (even as a child). But society seems to think that any woman with weight around her stomach must be pregnant and not, you know, just because that's where she naturally collects weight.
I've put on weight this past year and it was only as I was beginning to accept my curvier figure that BOOM I got asked if I was pregnant.
I don't fancy 'real men'
To give you an idea of the kind of guys I've dated:
1. One of my ex boyfriends weighed less than me, and it wouldn't surprise me if the rest did too
2. The only serious celebrity crush I've had was on the guy who played Craig Dean in Hollyoaks (a character who went on to become gay)
3. When out with a guy I was dating I looked down and realised we were dressed the same from below the waist
4. Despite finishing puberty, most of them couldn't grow a beard if they tried
5. If I'm in their bathroom and discover a beauty cabinet that rivals my own I do a fist pump
I mock my own taste in boyish men a lot - but plenty of masculine men (including the few manly men I have dated) can't quite hack the fact that I'm allowed to find a 'pansy' (direct quote) more attractive than them.
Girls think that Noah (or whatever his name was) from The Notebook is the ideal man
Girls, if a guy threatens to fall off a Ferris wheel unless you agree to a date this shouldn't be seen as romantic but as a sign he belongs in a psychiatric ward. I've mentioned before that I've been on the receiving end of this down right creepy behaviour, and it's definitely not romantic when it's real life and it's you who's feeling threatened and claustrophobic. But as long as Hollywood portrays this as gush-worthy then these creepy fuckers will continue to exist.
Single equals consent
I went to The Cathouse on Valentine's Day and lost count of the amount of creepy guys I was ready to punch. Because if you go out on Valentine's Day with a female friend you're marking yourself out as single and with the knowledge there's no boyfriend about to punch their lights out the creeps come out in the droves.
I know females who will lie about being spoken for in these situations. I don't lie, which usually causes more problems, but I maintain that I shouldn't have to lie and that guys should just learn not to be creepy assholes.
A lot of my closest friends are men (and that's weird)
If you're a guy with opposite sex friends you're gay or a player. If you're a girl with opposite sex friends you're a slut, desperate for attention or so bitchy even other girls want nothing to do with you. Can we cut this sexist bullshit and accept that 1) not all men want to fuck every girl within the room and 2) women don't need male attention to feel good about themselves?
The reason for me counting some of the male species within my BFFs? It's just the way my life panned out.
Cheerleading is undermined as some fetish or some sexy past time for the male gaze
Thanks to American TV cheerleading is stereotyped as some sexy girls cheering on the sidelines whilst some macho men throw a ball about. What cheerleading is is a very physically demanding sport, has it's own championships and competitions (meaning it fits the definition of a sport), mixed-sex and doesn't encourage eating disorders (you try putting your body through this if you live off salads) or expect girls to look a certain way.
Women's sport as a whole
When Andy Murry won Wimbledon the world forgot that some British women hadn't done too shabby in it. Scotland's women football team have been doing better than their male counterparts for years and if England want to win a world cup they could redirect the funding and support from that damn football team (who, let's be honest, won't win the World Cup any time soon) towards one of their teams who are always so so so close to winning but never quite make it. But who cares about netball anyway?
Guys think sex is over when they've came
I'll come off the market when I find a guy who doesn't just roll over and go to sleep when he's done.
And as a final note on International Women's Day, and all other days dedicated to discriminated groups in society, if you want them to go away then be part of the fight for equality. I don't want International Women's Day to exist just as much of some misogynist don't want it to (though for different reasons). As long as the things listed above remain a problem with my life, and society as a whole, I'll continue to post something like this every year.
I've given up selfies for lent but if I hadn't I'D BE ALL OVER THIS!
Politicians probably shouldn't have Twitter but it is funny.
A month ago the news broke that the USA might make animal testing mandatory by law but a counter act has now been put forward.
Good old Tesco's will be the headline sponsors of National Vegetarian Week.
The best 'here comes to the bride' alternatives.
If you're in and about Dundee on the 28th of March (like I will be :P) my wee bearded pal Alan will be DJing that night.
Morgan Clare sent me a beautiful ring this week and the rest of their shop ain't too shabby either.
One of my favourite Glasgow haunts, The Garage, turned 20 recently.
I hate my name (is Morag not meant for old ladies?) and loved this piece on someone who had in them to legally change their name.
Fancy coming round for quinoa and sweet potato tacos?
Sarah Michelle Gellar preferred Angel. Now fuck off Spikettes.
Do not disturb signs from around the world.
A music video based on Clueless you guys.
I've always gotten the impression those who study subcultures have never belonged to one. (Yes, I've toned down the MySpace/emo stuff of my youth but I've never truly outgrown it)
The BBC announced its Eurovision entry for this year (and I don't like it)
The 10 best 24-hour restaurants in NYC.
A psychological study on internet trolls confirms what so many of us already knew.
When it comes to blogging and business I'm a fan of niching yourself and Nubby agrees.
Seascape Apothecary is a brand I had been a bit curious about for a while so when I was contacted asking if I wanted to try a few bits of the range, I was made up (get to save myself a few quid with the blogging malarkey). I was sent the Peppermint Lip Balm* and the Refresh hand & nail cream* to try out on my own wee lips and mits.
These two products were 'growers' - due their natural aura they had a distinctive scent to them but if you know me you know I like products to smell of very little. The smell does linger on the skin a bit which means you do really need to like the scent of the product (so if you like the smell of peppermint or lemongrass then you're good). But after a while I became used to the scent and it began to not bother me, but my personal preference is still a non-scented product.
The quality of the products also grew on me. I wouldn't say these are 'use them once and you'll love them' products but I did begin to notice an improvement to my skin and lips over the two weeks I've used them. They also don't leave a sticky residue, which is always a plus.
Seascape Apothecary itself is a British brand which proudly produces its products and sources its ingredients from the island of Jersey. They have some excellent branding (yeah, this isn't a marketing blog but I'm a marketer) that has a very relaxed and pure image of everything being handmade on a little island in the channel. Alongside this they proudly state they are 'SLS, silicone, petroleum and paraban free' and carry the Positive Luxury accreditation.
Whilst these two products did grow on me, I'd state that they are good but they aren't any better than anything else on the market. I wouldn't write out everything within the Seascape Apothecary range and I'd like to purchase the bath foam and sleep oil with my own money but I'd say that unless the ethics listed above are important to you, then I'd say it would be worth carrying on with what you're already using.
* Products were given for free as a PR sample but my opinions are always mine.
Bought myself a solo ticket this evening - who wants to keep my company? ;)
The UK's Eurovision entry will be getting announced on Monday.
Street legal Batmobile goes on sale for £1m.
Dundee road renamed Bash Street in Beano tribute.
Dinner with the Smiths is a new Glasgow food blog I found this week
Piece is a west end cafe I took my first bite in this week and highly recommend.
I'm really not sorry for Instagramming my food though: 16 ways foodies drive you crazy
This is one of my best personal pieces I've reead in ages: I'm fat, forty and have no trouble getting laid all the time.
A beautiful mini-guide to house plants.
How to photograph in low light
5 creative ways to wear green on St Paddy's Day.
5 ways to fail gracefully
Hilariously (and thankfully) outdated advice from a 1967's Seventeen magazine.
I'd never have it in me to review a sex toy on my blog - but I'm glad other people do (NSFW)
Stylish ladies posing with vegan food. Lookbook cook is my kind of thing.
Zoe, previously of The London Lipgloss, rebranded as ZOE LDN this week and I am loving the new direction for her.
February, you can say, was a month where I sat down and made a conscious effort to find some new music. This included finding bands I had never heard of, finally listening to some that had been on radar for a while or listening to some album tracks of bands where I was only ever aware of their ~mainstream~ stuff (who knew Fountains of Wayne actually had four album?). And of course there was Limp Bizkit in there because of my buzz of seeing them live.
And you can also tell what series of Buffy I finished this month. ;)
CHVRCHES - Recover
Imagine Dragons - Demons
Futures - The Boy Who Cried Wolf
Blitz Kids - Sometimes
Madeon - Icarus
The Hazey Janes - Carmelite
Frightened Rabbit - The Woodpile
Hit The Lights - Drop The Girl
James Marsters - Rest in Peace
Onsind - Pokemon City Lights
Marianas Trench - Acadia
Fountains of Wayne - Mexican Wine
Limp Bizkit - Rollin
Fall Out Boy - I'm like a lawyer with the way I'm always trying to get you off
(And I had fun revisiting Infinity on High and getting nostalgic on how many words FOB tried to stuff into one song title)
A few weekends ago I had several non-Glasgow friends in town (for a weekend of speed dating, Limp Bizkit and a trip to a smaller indie bar - for some reason - we all wanted to try). Whilst sauntering about town after they all got their corresponding transport into G-town, we all felt peckish (or hungover, which was actually the truth for me) and it was my pal Alan who suggested Rufus T Firefly. (Alan has lived in Dundee all his life, but can recommend more places to scoff your face in Glasgow than I can).
Rufus T Firefly is American themed with that rock music vibe (read: not a classy tea room you'd take your grandmother to). I love the vibe of American themed places but unfortunately their menu's are usually an ode to burgers and hot dogs with not much veggie stuff, however there were quite a few options for me and my veggie pal (wasn't the odd one out this time haha).
I settled on the veggie fajitas:
And my pal Alan had their 'inferno burger':
I obviously didn't ask to have a bite...
...but here's what Alan himself had to say on his meat-feast:
"A decent sized spicy burger with plenty on the side. Not hot enough for a chilli fan but good for a pub."
(FYI, Alan collects bottles of random brands of chilli sauces...his idea of 'mild' would land some of us in hospital).
Hi I'm Morag...
Morag • 23 • Scotland
The blog of a red head, vegetarian, so-called hipster and girl-shaped magpie with too many dresses.
Contact & Subscribe
Recipes, love letters and general chit chat can be sent to email@example.com.
- January ( 8 )
- February ( 4 )
- March ( 1 )
- April ( 11 )
- May ( 9 )
- June ( 12 )
- July ( 12 )
- August ( 15 )
- September ( 2 )
- October ( 5 )
- November ( 6 )
- December ( 12 )
- January ( 5 )
- February ( 16 )
- March ( 8 )
- April ( 12 )
- May ( 21 )
- June ( 7 )
- July ( 7 )
- August ( 16 )
- September ( 11 )
- October ( 4 )
- November ( 8 )
- December ( 23 )
- January ( 22 )
- February ( 19 )
- March ( 22 )
- April ( 17 )
- May ( 21 )
- June ( 23 )
- July ( 18 )
- August ( 14 )
- September ( 19 )
- October ( 18 )
- November ( 23 )
- December ( 21 )